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TRAUMA INFORMED

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I am an Integrative Counsellor offering both face to face and online, 60 minute counselling sessions.

I offer 'tailored to you', trauma informed counselling using a number of approaches.

Face to face counselling takes place in my comfortable counselling room in Romiley.

Online sessions are ideal if you are pushed for time

or they suit your circumstances better. 

            

Counselling-what is it?

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Counselling can offer you greater awareness of your thoughts, feelings and emotions. This in turn can help you to understand yourself better. Sometimes we can go through life not really liking ourselves very much, even being highly critical of ourselves in a way we would not be with others. Perhaps you are feeling that there should be more to your life, more joy and less struggle? You may feel as if you are just existing.

If you had a difficult past you may not have a sense of who you are-what you feel passionate about, what you dislike and what your beliefs are.

I believe that whatever happened to us as children or whilst we grew up, we deserve to live a rich and fulfilling life. If you feel that isn't happening for you right now then booking your first counselling session can be the first step towards it. 

Perhaps you have felt low recently, or highly anxious or maybe you don't feel you are living your best life?

Do you find yourself unable to say 'no' at work, despite having a huge stack of to-do's on your plate? Perhaps you are aware you may be a 'people-pleaser'? I used to be one myself, but thankfully I was able to find ways out of this difficult way of being (it is possible!).

You may have had a sub-optimal childhood, and may have been exposed to negative experiences during it. This can leave us finding it difficult to trust others and can affect our close relationships. However long ago these things happened, it is never too late to start your journey towards understanding what happened to you and begin to recover.

'Counselling can help you to understand yourself better and like yourself more. You can then find a more harmonious and authentic way of living' 

Counselling gives you time that is just solely for you to talk about and explore your worries, your concerns, your hopes and your goals. It can help you to understand why you feel the way you do and this in turn increases self-awareness. Many of us can go through life feeling that we don't matter, but that is usually a message we have picked up from our carers, or others, along the way.

In your therapy, you are the V.I.P, irrespective of what others think of you!

'We all have difficult times in our lives, and when we do, it is absolutely fine to seek support' 

Issues I can see clients for

I am an experienced counsellor with additional knowledge and training in some areas. I also have a special interest in Anxiety & Ambiguous Loss.

This means I can offer counselling for a wide variety of issues.

These include, but are not limited to:

Anxiety including Generalised Anxiety Disorder, Panic Attacks, Attachment issues, Anger Management, Bereavement & Grief, Childhood emotional neglect, Complex PTSD, Carer Support, Depression and Low Mood, Difficulties at Work, Work/Life Balance, Bullying & Harassment, Family Difficulties, Life Changes (including Childbirth, Parenthood, 'Empty Nest', Moving in together, Menopause, Retirement), Lack of Meaning in Life, Loss (Health, Status, Career), Body Image Issues, Low Self Esteem & Confidence Issues, Mother-Daughter Attachment Issues, Self Harm, Sexuality, Relationship issues including betrayals, breakdown and communication difficulties. 

About Me

I am a fully qualified and BACP registered counsellor, having passed the BACP'S Certificate of Competence. I am fully insured for Professional Indemnity and Public Liability.

My background is as a biomedical scientist, helping patients within both the NHS and Private Healthcare.

In my time as a scientist I gained the skills that have enabled me to bring a warm hearted professionalism to my private practice.

I feel proud to be able to offer my clients a practice that is inclusive, informed and safe.

I ensure that I keep up to date with training and current developments in the world of mental health.

I have studied Psychology and mental health since 2005 and have been counselling for the last 10 years. In addition to running my Private Practice (five years in total) where I counsel adults, I also offer bespoke workshops (see my Services page here) on a variety of subjects.

I occasionally contribute to publications including Therapy Today, the BACP's magazine. I am available to write (articles, blogs etc), and speak publicly on mental health related issues, especially Anxiety, Workplace Stress and Ambiguous Loss.

My training, knowledge and my years of counselling experience are combined with a healthy dose of personal experience and you can read more about that here.

The Types of Counselling I Offer

There are apparently over 400 different types of therapy on offer and I understand that if you have never had Counselling before, that sounds a bit overwhelming!

To help you to choose I have outlined below what I can offer you in terms of my own particular approach. Not every counsellor will 'suit' you, irrespective of the approach they adopt. Once you have checked they are qualified, registered with a professional body and keep up to date, choosing a counsellor can be quite instinctive. A gut feeling if you like.

My approach to therapy is trauma informed, holistic and integrative. 

It is my personal belief that Mental Health is something that involves every part of us, not just how we were parented, our brain and nervous system, but also our relationships with others, how we move and how often, our habits (good and bad!) and our health.

As an Integrative and Creative Counsellor, I have access to a number of approaches which I can use in your therapy. 

I will most likely use a blend of these approaches (or theories) and it is very unlikely I will use a single model for the whole of our work together.

I have chosen to work this way because we are all unique and it is important that your therapy is as individual as you are.

This will ensure you get the best counselling experience that suits you, your issue and your practical requirements.

Essentially your therapy will look very different from someone else's.  

The main models and theories I use include:-

Counselling for Loss & Bereavement

Creative Counselling

Cognitive Behavioural Therapy

Transactional Analysis

Polyvagal Theory

Internal Family Systems

Humanistic/Person Centred

Some common reasons to consider counselling.....

Bereavement & Loss

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If you have experienced some form of loss either in the past or in the last few years. If you have lost somebody in the last two years your grief may have been complicated by the restrictions necessary to control the Covid pandemic, for example, not being allowed to say goodbye to a loved one in the way they, or you, would have wanted.

You may have difficult feelings around the death of someone you knew, you may have worries about how they died or how your relationship was at the time.

Talking through how you feel can really help to normalise how you are feeling. Many grievers worry that some of the feelings they have are unusual and are often surprised to find that they are, in fact, entirely normal.

If you are ready to find some understanding and comfort around your grief then maybe the time is right to reach out and book a free consultation with me.

Anxiety & Panic Attacks

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Where do you feel at your calmest? 

If you have been struggling with anxious thoughts, panic attacks including distressing physical symptoms, counselling can help you to feel calmer.

I have a great deal of experience of, and expertise in, working with clients who suffer from anxiety, panic attacks, and Generalised Anxiety. If you would like to start to feel calmer, cope better with your stress levels and learn how to cope better with life's challenges in the long-term, then you are in the right place.

Issues such as workplace stress, bullying or difficult relationships can leave us feeling anxious and overwhelmed.

 

Low Self Esteem

'However difficult life may seem, there is always something you can do, and succeed at....' Stephen Hawking

If you have feelings that you are 'not good enough', you don't like yourself much or that you do not deserve the nice things in life, then you may be suffering from a lack of self esteem.

This can originate in childhood, perhaps you were poorly treated or not given the nurturing we need to withstand life's knocks. This can result in being self critical or feeling we must be perfect and not make mistakes.

Low Self esteem is what I call a 'Joy Sucker'. It takes a lot of joy from our lives. However we can improve the way we think about ourselves. It helps if we talk with a qualified counsellor who will listen and let us know we are okay just as we are, allowing us to let go of the unrealistic expectations we may carry. I believe that we all have strengths, sometimes we just don't see it.

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"I offer my expertise and the tools to help you to understand your thoughts and emotions.Together we will create a unique environment to give you the clarity you need to get the joy back into your life"