Grief Counselling

We can't avoid loss in our lives but grief counselling can help us to work through the myriad different feelings we encounter when we lose someone close to us. We also lose relationships, careers, dreams and homes. Feelings associated with loss can differ in intensity and duration.

If you feel that you are struggling with your grief for whatever reason, then you are in the right place.

Grief counselling can give you the space to reflect on how you feel about the person (or thing) you lost. Your life will be different in many ways and it can take time to adjust. It sometimes be hard to talk to others about our loss, they may not want to listen. Counsellors are skilled at listening, with experience and understanding the variety of emotions that come with grief.

Loss is a natural part of life but can sometimes it can profoundly affect us, often in ways we don't expect.

We can feel sad, angry and hurt. We may have regrets about our relationship with the person we have lost. We may feel that it is hard to carry on without them. If we have cared for someone prior to their death then we may find it difficult to re-establish meaning in our lives.

I have a special understanding of Ambiguous Loss (where you lose someone psychologically before they pass away eg Alzheimers) and Anticipatory Grief (where someone close to you is suffering from a life-limiting disease).

'You need someone to see your grief, to acknowledge it. You need someone to hold your hands while you stand there in blinking horror, staring at the hole that was your life'

Megan Devine

As you would expect, I have experienced grief and each grief has been different.

There are about 18 types of grief so it makes sense that our experiences vary. Much of it depends on the depth of attachment you had to that person.

All those I have lost occupy a place in my memory which I know will always be the case. Grief theory tells us that our grief doesn't really shrink over time, rather it changes it's character. We adjust, we find life grows around it, we find acceptance of the hole in our lives their absence has caused.